Source: WHAT HAPPENED TO MARRIAGE? Channel: hoe_math (PsychoMath) Published: January 20, 2024 | Archived: April 28, 2026

Video: WHAT HAPPENED TO MARRIAGE?
Channel: hoe_math (PsychoMath)
Published: January 20, 2024
Duration: 8:15
Views: 1,550,923
Category: People & Blogs
Video ID: qDhde8MSwBA

Description

This young woman seems to have sadness in her eyes as she asks “do men want to get married anymore?”

I think we all feel how badly relationships have degraded, but no one really understands why. The answers are in the changes we made to what used to work. That’s called “hubris,” - when you believe that you know better than thousands of years of tradition and that your best guess is going to yield better results.

We now live in a state of decay, declining quality of life, and cultural and social collapse, and it’s because we were fooled - once again - into thinking that we could change all the rules to be more convenient and empowering and we wouldn’t lose anything. In reality, laws, culture, technology, and all forms of change to our systems are like a wish made on a monkey’s paw - you might get what you want, but you might not like what it costs.

(I tried making my own background music for this. It’ll get better over time)

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Transcript — YouTube panel (English (auto-generated)

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0:00 I have a question for the men do you guys still want to get married I think what you’re asking is do you want to be married and I think that a lot of men would say yes I do want a partner to spend my life with but when you say do you want to get married I’m not sure if you’re keeping in mind all these extra steps that come before and the possible ones after here’s a guy living in a cardboard box with his ex-wife in his house with other men you have to keep in mind that happens with roughly onethird of new marriages and that’s only for the men who have the opportunity to get married which uh is contingent upon a bunch of steps that have changed quite a bit over the years so in order to get married you have to date and in order to date you have to work and make money and in order to work and make money you have to go to school and men have been facing a lot of new difficulties in all of these areas over the last few decades so

0:59 do do I want to have a partner yes but do I want to go through all of this again m not right now so you want to get married you have to date you want to date you have to work you want to work you have to go to school this is where a lot of male problems begin I’m not saying that school girls have it easy but the last few decades school boys have been treated like they are defective in third grade I used to finish my work before the other kids and I would get up and move around and they told me that was not okay so they medicated me when I got a little older the other boys would start fights and I went to the authorities to do the right thing and they punished both of us so then I took matters into my own hands and they punished just me because of these policies they don’t let boys just fight it out anymore those types of policies are not setting young boys up for Success they they punish the way

1:51 that we natively look at the world it definitely messed me up a little and that was 30 years ago and I have no idea what’s going on now when we get older and go to college there are all kinds of things in place to help girls that are not available for boys and they say that it’s there to correct problems but I don’t think those problems exist anymore so as we are accumulating what we need to succeed in life boys are getting uh less of a a head start than they used to which is I think one of the contributing reasons for why they say uh men are they have Peter Pan syndrome and they they never grow up I think it starts here when we get into the workplace there are similar programs that benefit fit women and not men and that’s an issue because women want to make equal money to men but then they also want men to make more and support them and you can’t have both additionally the culture has become very

2:41 inhospitable towards men and again the way that men communicate and behave and I don’t know if you’ve noticed but the economy is getting pretty bad and even though that affects everybody men are the ones who are expected to pay so this puts us at an increasing disadvantage comparative to with as we age then when we get out into the dating world if you don’t have any money that’s going to be a problem if you can’t compete on the dating apps which most men cannot that’s going to be a problem if you’re not okay with her having an only fans or an Instagram or whatever it’s going to take some women off the table because they have so much attention so a lot of men are playing catchup at this point in life when that didn’t used to be the case so our parents and grandparents did not have any of these problems they just sort of grew up got jobs and married who ever was nearby have you ever thought of it

3:31 like would your mother have married your father if she had Tinder would she have chosen him there’s stuff going on in these phases of life for us that would have been unheard of even one generation ago I uh once had a job where I worked with a girl we had the same job I had more experience we had layoffs and later she matched with me on Bumble and came to hookup and I said would you like to continue doing this and she told me that I didn’t have my life together enough she was we were were living in the same place in in the same job market and we came from the same job and I had more experience and she was getting 120k a year to do some like women’s leadership job or something and I was driving for Uber so you know I think a lot of people are really underestimating how much easier this makes things so then if you can actually get to this point you as a man you have to take everything that

4:21 you’ve managed to put together over the course of your life and put it all on the table for someone who is probably not doing the same even though women are not having a hard time in the workplace men are still generally expected to provide while women generally keep more of their money for themselves we’ve all heard uh my money is my money his money is my money I found this great little video about that but I just have a quick question my husband won’t see all of my accounts right I have like eight different bank accounts but my husband only knows about two of them I’ve just been secretly saving for years in case I ever need to no say no more I don’t need to see those statements so as far as I’m concerned they don’t exist yeah so I don’t love the idea that my wife might be hiding money of course I’m not allowed to do that all of my money has to be on the table and there’s about uh onethird chance that you’re going to be

5:16 taking it to party with other dudes in the house that I bought for you divorce laws have changed too you used to need a really good reason to get divorced but now it can happen just because someone is not happy they even write songs about it check this out I have to mute it for copyright I’ll read it to you might be the only guy who didn’t send me hearted eyes in reply to my latest story we work well on paper we don’t argue we don’t fight but lighting scented candles just won’t relight up our fire and right there she goes it ain’t that bad it’s just not what I wanted don’t want to live this life half-hearted hang on here it comes I want fireworks and Flames don’t want safe tame practical that ain’t enough that that ain’t love this is the squirkle of unconsciousness it represents how people don’t know how relationships work and so they think the relationship is going to go like this and then it turns a corner

6:12 I think she’s at the dissatisfied part you can’t have everything is exciting all the time good choices are boring no relationships are going to be fun the whole time they’re all going to have spots where there’s no fire but she don’t want safe tame practical that ain’t enough that’s not even love look how passionate she is about dumping her husband that’s real I can spot a faker and she even sings about other men giving her googly eyes on her Instagram stories so this girl is what I would call an excitement Chaser she starts out her new relationships excited and over time gets bored when they’re not chaotic and then by the time we notice she’s bored she’s already got a new guy lined up and this has pretty nasty effects on us so your relationship satisfaction is going to change over time but your stability is not supposed to that’s what marriage is that’s what it’s for even when you start feeling like things are

7:04 not as fun you have to remember that commitments are what gets you through the swings I actually have a little theory that this takes about a year obviously we get up and go to sleep with the sun and uh women have changes in their hormones and emotions with the moon and I think that a year is the amount of time that it takes to uh find somebody and have that strong emotional connection get pregnant and have a child about one year all together and this girl is making a spiritual experience out of a biological process and she’s allowed to end the marriage over it so it’s not that I don’t want a partner it’s just that a lot of us don’t have what we need to build a partnership and even if we get it it could fall apart immediately she could squirkle herself into believing it’s not love and have a phone in her pocket with, 1400 horny guys on it and then I end up here so what you’ve done by fighting for equality is you’ve

7:59 basically said hey you want to play a game of chess I get all queens though hey where you going do you guys still want to get married like is that still a thing I hope this all made it clear why it’s less of a thing